July 18, 2021
Good morning friends! I hope you are all doing well and enjoying the second half of July! Be sure to make time daily to enjoy the outdoors. Nature is an amazing and natural cure to physical, mental or spiritual stress or struggles. Breathe in the air, soak up some sunshine, enjoy the beauty and serenity of nature. Take off your shoes (and socks) and walk on the sand, grass, dirt or whatever you have available. Allow the energy of the earth to penetrate your being. Let it empower you with gratitude. The grounding transformational force will energize your spirit, attitude and thought process. Life is meant to be lived. Be present, so you don’t miss a second. Seek new adventures, make memories and cherish every single moment. When you remain at home, stay indoors or devote all your time to work; you can’t enjoy the magic. Set aside your cell phone, laptop or whatever you’re doing. Get off your rear and get moving. Go for a walk, find a beautiful spot to relax and enjoy the magnificent splendor God has created! The universe is filled with incredible power and enlightenment to guide you along your path. Don’t fear life, live it with an open heart and kindness to nurture love.
When you love someone, how do you nurture that incredible feeling, so it grows and flourishes? How do you express your inner feelings, emotions or passions? Love is an amazing, crazy, fantastic and intense feeling. I find it interesting, as a parent of an awesome daughter, how love varies in relationships. Parents, siblings, family members and friends share special bonds of loves. My daughter and I share a unique and fabulous bond. My love for her is strong, committed and never ending. She is a part of me and I cherish our connection. Our union is built by blood, but forged through our communication, interaction and respect for each other. I love her because she’s my daughter, but also for the woman she has become and the friendship we’ve established over her lifetime. The love I share with her (of our children) can be difficult to explain or understand, until you experience it for yourself. This can be true for how you encounter love in general. Until you experience that sensation or feeling, you may not know or understand it fully or completely. Like many things in life, it’s easier understood when lived. If you want to achieve or maintain something amazing and fabulous, it takes effort and work. Greatness isn’t accomplished by doing nothing.
When two individuals share love in a romantic relationship, it creates an incredibly powerful and fierce bond. It energizes every nerve, every muscle and every fabric of my soul. I know that feeling well and want it back! For many years I have struggled with fully opening my heart and soul. This is particularly noticeable in relationships. My issues have nothing to do with honesty, commitment, loyalty, trust or anything like that. My struggles have always been about opening and sharing my emotions at their deepest level. Crucial communication and self-expression, in a couples intimate setting, has never come easy. When you have trouble bearing your soul to your partner, relationships struggle and diminish over time. I have no doubt this began for me as a child and continued into adulthood. My life and career in law enforcement reinforced my closed heart or emotions. Years of suppressing my emotions to maintain safety and a clear thought process, to resolve critical incidents, further compounded my personal issues. I closed my emotions off at work to diminish the pain from the trauma and sorrow. As years passed, it become increasingly difficult for me to open myself to anyone.
I always believed I could tackle any issue, concern or problem. I pride myself at living each day in the present. I’m a confident guy; mentally tough, disciplined, honest, strong and intelligent (to a certain degree). I know how to communicate, talk and express myself. This was true until I entered into a committed relationship, then I seemed to collapse or withdraw. My past had a way of unconsciously creeping into my head. That unknowing nonsense only creates negativity and destruction. My last relationship is a prime example of how the past can create havoc. I spent the majority of my life attempting to control or manipulate outcomes. I was accustomed to controlling every situation I encountered during my law enforcement career. It only seemed natural for me to control my life, relationships and events. I eventually realized that type of control wasn’t possible or healthy in any aspect of life. During my career in law enforcement, it became routine managing crime scenes, volatile situations, combative individuals and other incidents that create immediate risk. Attempting to alter my life, or specific outcomes, just isn’t natural or possible. I made the mistake of taking an awesome relationship and love for granted. Stubbornness or ego are selfish bastards that can destroy the beauty of love. When you don’t cherish and believe in what you have, it can become a painful experience. That pain is felt by both partners. Losing love; whether it’s through break up, separation or death, can cause sorrow and agony. Pain in life is always possible. I am no longer allowing it to control me. When you find yourself in difficult times, allow your emotions to freely express themselves. How you resolve, process and move beyond those times, allows you to heal and grow.
I fell in love with an amazing and incredible woman. She is the epitome of openness, kindness, support and love. We both experienced the immediate connection of our souls and lives. The best part of our relationship was finding my partner and best friend. Our love developed and grew naturally. We shared an array of “likes,” from food, music, exercise, adventure, travel and more! My issues and communication insecurities became evident. She had no difficulty sharing her emotions and passions. Her support and confidence in me, assisted in opening me further than anyone had before. She was the catalyst that forced me to seek relief from trauma, which had been trapped and suppressed for years. When my heart and mind were opened and wounds allowed to heal, I felt like I could breathe again. It was like having a massive weight lifted from my chest. A new and happier life began for me. I later discovered past childhood issues that had been a part of my communication blockage. Until I took the time to fully explore my past and present being, I never fully understood what made me the way I am. The path to my resolution continues. I’m no longer afraid to look deeper into myself. It brings new found appreciation of who I am, where I’ve been and how far I’ve come on my journey. I know the pain of a broken heart. No one wants to feel or experience that type of sorrow. It creates more pain for me knowing that my partner, and friend, has to feel this pain too. I also know the vibrant joy and energizing rush of true love. The thrill of passion and the deepness of a bond and connection are exhilarating and freeing. They create an absolutely indescribable feeling of joy. The sensations are beyond the limits of excitement or bliss! I know I can experience love again.
Love has nothing to do with looks, physical attraction or sex. In the early stages of meeting, you may be attracted to specific aspects of a person’s physical appearance. You may share likes, dislikes, hobbies or activities. These features assist in building your relationship foundation, but have little to do with love. Over the course of time; sharing, conversation and interaction; a connection occurs within your soul that leads to a new feeling. The pathway to love is an intense bond between two spirits. When you allow your heart to open, that is when souls become intertwined by the desire to exist as one. You no longer wish to be independent. You know, beyond a doubt, that sharing life together, with your partner, is your ultimate passion. This union doesn’t change who you are or what path you’re on. It begins an incredible new journey of two souls together. You support, encourage, share and build on your foundation to increase your love. Nurturing love means working together, to achieve your partners goals, dreams and desires; while working on your own and the discovery of new dreams you set together. I’m my loves biggest cheer leader. I know she is mine as well. Like most things in life, love takes effort. You can’t sit around thinking everything will just happen. Love is like two beautiful dancers. They let their egos go, so they work together in unison. They flow together as if they’re floating as one. There may be a misstep or stumble along the way, because life isn’t perfect. They recover easily because they trust in each other and know the rewards are so much more wonderful together. They stand united as a couple. This doesn’t mean they’re tied together. They each retain their individuality, yet are fully connected. We all require a certain amount of personal space. This is where balance and understanding your partners personal needs are key. You may be separated by time or space, but love is forever strong and eternal.
When two souls join together in love, it’s a collaborative effort for success. They believe and trust in each other because they know it feels right to be together. Nothing else can fill that void when they’re apart. Their hearts feel the pain of separation in absence of the other. They feel the energy and power of their connection each time they touch or share a special glance across a room. Their souls flutter with happiness and anticipation of their union. Together they can realize their dreams. Lovers accept each other as they are, not trying to change each other. They offer support as they develop and grow together. I’ve struggled with some life issues over the years. We all struggle from time to time. As I discover the solutions to assist me in becoming a better version of me, I’m confident love will find me once again. It seems like a long road, but I’m happy to have discovered the root causes of past issues. It seems silly, and also truly sad, realizing how some past childhood events can impact my present life. Knowing and identifying the problem is a crucial step in moving forward and onto a new path. If you struggle with issues, seek qualified assistance to resolve them. We all need a helpful hand sometimes; and reaching out is the first step toward wellness. Don’t fear change. Believe in yourself and let your inner power shine. Don’t dwell on the past. Live each new day as a rebirth of your soul. New opportunities abound with the sunrise. Don’t wait! Be grateful and thankful. Kindness reflects your spirit. Let it shine on others. I believe in myself and in you too.
Sending you very special birthday wishes Jessica! Follow your dreams. They know the way.
Please tune in and join me again next Sunday for more! The healthy life puzzle is always in rotation. Let’s be healthy and strong mentally, physically and spiritually!
Thanks for your love and support! Embrace Life! Be sure to get outside and enjoy nature!
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