May 8, 2022
Good morning my friends. I hope you are doing well and enjoying life. Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful Moms around the world. This is a special day, as mothers have earned a well-deserved and fabulous day of recognition. These amazing women, work and toil daily, to ensure their children grow, develop and mature into good adults. Unfortunately, the world we live in is far from perfect. As in all aspects of life, we have varying degrees of individuals (as well as moms); from great to not so great. It’s sad to say, but there are always a few humans who don’t measure up to the standard; for various reasons. It would be nice to paint all people as great and trustworthy, but that just isn’t reality. Today, I celebrate and offer my praise to all the Mom’s doing it right, making the effort and putting in the hard work. Being a mother isn’t an easy task. I applaud all moms for your commitment and dedication. Today, I honor you all. Go out and celebrate the day in style and grace. Let yourself be pampered, because tomorrow, it’s back to work. My Mom will be enjoying a Heavenly Mother’s Day today.
The first week of May has been an emotional mix for me. This past Friday was my Dads birthday. He passed away a little over eight years ago. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by where he isn’t in my thoughts. I miss him every day. He is forever in my heart. I love and miss my Mom too. She passed away three months ago. She’d been confined to an Alzheimer’s memory care facility for nearly six years. The disease quickly robbed her of her memory, thoughts and life. She continued to exist in a functioning body during the vast majority of that time. The sickness slowly deteriorated every other aspect of her being. It was sad and heartbreaking to watch my Mom wither away before my eyes. It’s been far too long time since I could celebrate any holiday, let alone a Happy Mother’s Day, with her. I feel cheated, in some respects, that our family was deprived from sharing so many wonderful times together. Now, I know, she is at peace with God, my Dad and her family. My Mom wasn’t perfect, no one is. We all have our imperfections, flaws and personality issues. She was a product of her upbringing and environment. She was born and raised during difficult and traumatic times, both in Italy and America. She did the best she could, to be a good mom and home maker. She was a stay at home mom, while my Dad worked. Our family was a basic “middle class” household. We were blessed in many ways. We had a nice home; which was always clean (my sister and I were delegated chores, especially to ensure our bedrooms were always tidy and orderly. I had clothing, food, shelter, an education, a pet dog and many things others do not. Mom was an amazing cook, so we always had enough food on our table. I’ve found few rivals to her (spaghetti) sauce or meatballs. My Dad loved dessert, and my Mom always ensured she’d have something freshly baked or tucked away for him (us). My Dad’s like for sweets was passed to me, and I passed that trait on to my daughter. When she and I are together, it takes lots of will power to abstain from dessert treats. Typically, just say “yes.” It’s not bad thing to enjoy treats once in a while, as long as you don’t over indulge. Will power can be tricky in some situations. You have to know when to be strong and when to bend a little to enjoy life. It’s all about balance!
A “mom” has the ability to be a very special woman in your life; even if she isn’t your own mother. I am very fortunate to have (had and still have) some amazing “mom” figures in my life. Thank you to my many aunts that played significant roles in my life. They are each unique and wonderful women who showed love, encouragement and support in their own way. They all provided their own incredible individual perspectives on life; that was typically different than my own mother. All of these interactions gave me additional information on what motherhood means. Aunts, like grandmothers, are individuals who love you unconditionally, yet still have no issue in correcting you, discipling you or ensuring you’re a happy person. They were all very influential in my development. The passing of these women gave way to others, who have shown their own talents and skills as moms. I want to thank one individual in particular, Linda, who I consider a great friend and my second mom. You have always treated me like a son; giving me advice and insight into life and love. Your consistent and positive guidance, wisdom and honesty have meant the world to me. When my own mother was no longer able to be there for me, you provided your own brand of motherhood. I appreciate you and our friendship. Thank you for your support and love. I’m sending you very special wishes for a Happy Mother’s Day!
Today, my thoughts reflect on life in the present. The past is gone, and unchangeable. I do my best, with each new sunrise, to live in the here and now. This is where life is happening. I’m grateful for each new day and the opportunities it brings for wonderful things. I have the ability to make my life happy each and every day. The tiny chore of happiness is totally my responsibility; and no one else’s. If you aren’t happy with your life, then change it. Don’t sit around or complain about all that you perceive as “bad, unjust or not to your liking.” Get over yourself! Instead, work for you want and turn your dreams into reality. Take the initiative to spread joy and positivity in our world. It may not always be easy, because life can be tough and cruel sometimes. Happiness is a daily choice, but when you begin each day with a happy and grateful heart, anything is possible. It’s always in my best interest to lift myself up when I’m down, dust myself off and keep moving forward. Even small steps, in the right direction, are carrying me into the future. When I start my day with happiness, it’s good for your soul and confidence. If I want to accomplish something (anything), I have to take action, work for it and make it happen. The rest is up to God and the Universe. Be happy my friends. Life is too short not to live life to the fullest. Seek adventure and live. Happy Mother’s Day! Follow your dreams. They know the way.
Please tune in and join me again next Sunday for more! The puzzle of life is always changing. Change can lead to amazing opportunities. Together, let’s be healthy and strong; mentally, physically and spiritually!
Thanks for your love and support! Embrace Life! Be sure to get outside and enjoy nature!