Self-Care is a Gift

Self-Care is a Gift

October 30, 2022

Good morning my friends.  I hope you are doing well and enjoying life.  I celebrated my 69^th trip around the sun this past week.  I flew to California to spend this special day in my home state.  It was fun sharing several days with close friends, catching up and making some wonderful and lasting memories.  I can honestly say, I never envisioned myself being this old.  It’s crazy how fast time passes.  The years between retirement to the present have flown by with amazing speed!  So much has happened in the last eight years, that I don’t even feel like the same person I was when I retired in 2014.  There are times I feel like a caterpillar that has transformed into a butterfly.  My metamorphosis isn’t nearly as colorful, beautiful or pleasant.  My transformation began when I met an incredible woman who forced me to take a hard look deep within myself.  My reconstruction and improvements continue today.  My journey’s had ups and downs, but it’s been an enlightening and inspirational path that’s been beneficial for me; physically, mentally and spiritually.  I have no doubt there are many individuals out there who could use, and benefit, from some introspection, shadow work, transforming and self-care.  The discovery of self-love, personal happiness and finding my inner peace created amazing and life changing events; for my mind, body and soul.  The new me began by changing my attitude, perceptions and thoughts.  Clearing the negativity from my mind provided an energetic boost and empowerment.  I opened myself to changes inside and out, without fear; for it’s the pathway to my future.  I trust my intuition and have faith and confidence in my abilities. Positivity cleared my path with a vibrant new vigor.  When I made the decision to relinquish control to God and the universe, it eased my soul and created new opportunities in my life.  I’m grateful for each new sunrise and the chance to shine.

My hardened exterior was constructed like a protective shell; to shield my heart and soul from the world, my past and long career in law enforcement.  The sad part; this “body armor” also prevented me from opening my heart, soul, emotions and passions to everyone around me.  It kept me from experiencing the deep and connective love I longed for throughout my life.  I believed this was just part of my life; never realizing I could break free from the constraints it shackled me too for so many years.  I was always of the belief I could tackle any problem, issue or crisis situation with easy resolution.  My profession taught and provided me that luxury.  Control and strategic decisions were part of my every day police life.  Those characteristics transitioned into my personal life as well.  Dominance and manipulation aren’t a good fit in any relationship.    

I didn’t know the trauma revolving in my mind was beyond my control.  When I came to the realization I needed help, I wasn’t sure how to reach out for it.  I was never taught that aspect of manhood.  The new journey was about to lead me down uncharted and unexpected pathways into myself.  I didn’t know what to expect or what would transpire during the process.  When I took the first step toward healing, it became clearly evident I needed help beyond my own resources.  I’m thankful for the push; broken by the loss of love, but happy for the new me and renewed opportunities life offers.  I’ve learned that love can last beyond the physical expression, and my love will last forever.  Today, I’m relatively the same man externally, but a much improved version of me internally.  I use to worry so much about relationships, dating and life.  I’ve learned it’s much better to let go, release control, enjoy myself and love life.  There are times when the things that are the most scariest, or make my heart race, are the best things to pursue.  Life always has a way of working itself out.  Patience and trust are my new best friends.  I place my faith in God and the universe; because they know what they’re doing. 

For my birthday, I’m treating myself to an adventure south of the border.  I arrived in Cabo San Lucas yesterday.  I’m here for a week-long yoga retreat and my first visit to Cabo.  It’s my self-care gift to me, because someone had to do it.  I needed a getaway (like this), to refresh my body; physically, mentally and spiritually.  I have no doubt the week will bring more introspection, clarity and solace.  The twice daily yoga sessions, healthy cuisine, ocean, exercise and group interaction will be wonderful as well.  I’ve had the opportunity to do several international yoga retreats.  They have never disappointed me; for their quality accommodations, amazing foods, fabulous individuals (both within the group and local peoples) and incredible sights to visit.  I’m hopeful this trip will be as amazing, as past retreats, and yield epic results.  My goal is to be the best possible version of me.  As I begin this new journey into myself, I hope and pray I have the inner strengthen and fortitude to be better human.  Self-care is an important component part to healthy living.  This begins with loving yourself.  Life is a fantastic journey my friends.  I’m grateful for the opportunity to shine.  Cherish every day and all the people in your life who are special to you.  Life really is an amazing adventure and journey; not to be wasted on ego, possessions or unhappiness.  Share your love, joy, happiness and just live.  None of this makes me weak or unable to fight off evil.  All of my internal work makes me stronger; mind, body and soul.  I am energized and empowered to live a happy life.  I’m sure my next blog will be about my yoga retreat week. 

Happy Halloween (tomorrow) and All Saints Day on Tuesday, November 1^st.  Be safe and enjoy the magic of the holidays.  Halloween originated with the Celts, who lived 2000 years ago.  It marked the end of summer and a time when they believed the dead could return to earth.  When you look at the past history of our world, it’s interesting and incredible how our holidays have evolved over time.  The universe is filled with magic.  When I slow myself down, it’s easy to recognize the beauty and magnificence all around me.  Life is a gift to be cherished my friends.  I’m grateful for each new day to learn, grow and become a better human.  You are never too old to learn new things, change your attitude or seek new adventures.  Follow your dreams.  They know the way.

Please tune in and join me again next Sunday for more!  The puzzle of life is always changing.  Change can lead to amazing opportunities.  Together, let’s be healthy and strong; mentally, physically and spiritually! 

Thanks for your love and support!  Embrace Life!  Be sure to get outside and enjoy nature!