January 8, 2023
Good morning my friends. I hope you are doing well and enjoying life. We are already a week into the new year and time keeps ticking away. Don’t sit back just existing or waiting for something great to happen. No one is going to force you to jump up, make decisions or take action. It’s up to you to be an active participant in life. Seek out new adventures, make changes and create the life that fulfills your purpose on earth. Nothing will happen until you stand up and do the work. Change will continue to occur whether you acknowledge it or not. By sitting on the sidelines or doing nothing, you allow other less capable individuals to make choices and decisions for you. Please make the New Year as amazing and incredible as you desire. Let go of your ego; this isn’t about riches or fame. This is about making your contribution to achieving what’s best for yourself and humanity. Life is a limited time opportunity. It can change in a heartbeat. Embrace and cherish every moment. It’s never too late to dream new dreams, change your attitude, set new goals or create a happy life.
During the Monday Night football game, this past week, Damar Hamlin of the Buffalo Bills football team, was critical injured during the first quarter. No one wants this to happen, especially to a young man following his dream to play in the NFL. The injury suffered by Hamlin is not something we expect to hear about, or view on national television during any game. No one expects to see a player have CPR administered, to revive him, before being taken away by ambulance in critical condition. The incident brought immediate reactions of overwhelming grief from teammates, fans and all people who enjoy the game. Football is considered a violent sport, where injuries are common place and witnessed by many. It’s difficult to imagine this type of accident ever being anticipated. Devastating life-threatening incidents typically don’t occur at these type of sporting events. My prayers go out to Damar, and his family, for a full recovery. I’m happy to hear his health has improved over the weekend. We never know where God’s plan will take us.
This story is sad and tragic, and many people have been moved by it. There is something that strikes me as even more tragic (and I wish more Americans were half as concerned about). The continued attacks and murder of law enforcement officers across our nation is horrific. I am brought to tears whenever I hear of a police officer, or military personnel, who have been injured or killed. Imagine what emotions fellow officers experience when they witness co-workers (friends), injured or killed. They, often times, don’t have the luxury to take a knee and hang their head in sorrow or respect. When you’re under attack, there are no time outs or safe havens. I know this is true because I’ve been at the scene of many calamities. These tragedies are a sorrowful reality of our world. Where’s the out pouring of grief and support, from the people, community or our elected officials? There are few politicians worthy of being called “leader.” My thoughts and prayers are always with the men and women protecting our nation from all threats, both foreign and domestic. We (America) have the ability work together to prevent and stop attacks on Law Enforcement. The men and women protecting us deserve so much more respect and thanks than they receive. Their right to live and thrive is the same as this young professional football player fighting for his life.
The past week proved to be a sleepless challenge. I found out a young woman, who I knew, passed away from breast cancer this week. She was a young, vibrant and radiant soul who cared about all beings and creatures. There are few individuals today, who are truly kind and enlightening. She is definitely one of a kind. Her death, the football injury and events of the past year, influenced my mind and ruled thoughts. I’ve often sat alone, sad and helpless, as I relive tragic events that I’ve experienced. Living alone has its pluses, minuses and challenges. I spent nearly 34 years in a career that energetically threw me into every aspect of life and death. I’ve witnessed the birth of new life; and too often have I witnessed the life of men and women (both young and old) leave this earth in tragic and horrific circumstances. As a leader, I made decisions that directly impacted the lives of individuals surrounding me; whether they were victims, criminals or the officers I commanded. There were times I felt alone, but I was always confident in my personnel and decisions. Work always seemed easier than relationships. Two marriages, two divorces and a couple failed relationships later, here I am, living single. It’s definitely not my preference or first choice. I enjoy and thrive having a partner to traverse the adventure of life. The History Channel show, “Alone,” is an example of the anxiety created by living solo. Survivalists, void of human contact, live in the wilderness as long as they possible. Real skills are required in order to survive. Lack of food, sickness and injuries cause some tap outs. Another factor that brings some of these strong willed and skilled survivalists to their knees, is just being alone. Missing family, loved ones and the opportunity to share life with another individual is an extremely powerful force. I believe life is meant to be shared with a partner. Obviously, the correct partner is the key to any great relationship.
Life is an incredible journey, with much to be grateful for daily. It can also throw negativity and trauma at us. How we respond to the difficult times, including trauma, has the ability to create additional harm to us; physically, mentally and spiritually. Resolving critical issues may not be pleasant, but it’s needs to be done in a positive manner to maintain our good health. Sharing open communication, emotions and feelings, provides a starting point to empower us to overcome any situation or circumstance. Don’t suppress your feelings or close off your heart. Life is better lived, in all aspects, even if it’s painful. Help is always out there if you need it. Don’t be fearful to reach out. When I fall down (and I have), I get back up and keep moving forward. Professional assistance helped improve the quality of my mental, spiritual and physical life. I’m living proof that life can be filled with happiness. I’ve learned so much about myself in the last several years. I’ve dug deep into my heart and soul. I’ve done my shadow work, sought counseling and received EMDR therapy. I learned to open my mind, heart and spirit to others. I see the positive in all things, including myself. This doesn’t mean life is perfect. I deal struggles, but I see them as opportunities to improve myself. I trust God and the universe. It’s exciting becoming the person my soul always knew I was. I remain hopeful and positive for us all. I’m happy and excited to be active participant in life. Join me, not only for yourself, but for the greater good of all mankind. One of the best parts about growing up, is becoming wiser with age. I learned how to appreciate and love myself and life. Follow your dreams. They know the way.
Please tune in and join me again next Sunday for more! The puzzle of life is always changing. Change can lead to amazing opportunities. Together, let’s be healthy and strong; mentally, physically and spiritually!
Thanks for your love and support! Embrace Life! Be sure to get outside and enjoy nature!